The cougar myth – let’s talk about sex

I’m a strong and independent modern woman in my late 30s (early 40s in less than a month). I have no problem making the first move or hitting on a guy I’m interested in. I can walk into a bar by myself and order a drink. And as I’ve gotten older, I’ve developed this clumsily […]

I know it’s over – new and improved

I am a grown-up. I know what it means when somebody doesn’t answer your texts or when it takes them too long to do so. To make a long story short(ish): I went out. I drank. I sent F a message. Nothing too incriminating, thank god. Just saying that I was in a bar with […]

F: a character sketch

F is the real version of a character that I imagined 13 years ago. I sometimes think that F probably didn’t exist before my imagination began to shape his fictional counterpart. Perhaps I actually and supernaturally willed him into being. But regardless of how he came into this world, F isn’t fictional and is therefore […]

Fiction trumps reality

The best thing about fiction is that it ends. Eventually. You write a story and at some point you think “that’s a good ending to my narrative” and that’s it. Time stops. The end. Reality, on the other hand, is endless. I’m not saying that I think I’m going to live forever. I know there […]